Mr. Covey writes under this heading that he believes that God is the source of our principles and conscience. He feels that only God will be able to correct some behaviors that are a result of human nature and not education or legislation. Continue reading “A Personal Note: The Final Chapter: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
If your parents beat you when you were a kid does that mean that you have to beat your kids? Obviously the answer is, “No!” However, Mr. Covey tells us that the tendency of those who grew up in that situation will be to act out the script upon the next generation, in other words, their own kids. It’s not written in stone that this is what will happen but chances are pretty good that it may, particularly during stressful times. Continue reading “Becoming A Transition Person: The Final Chapter: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Stephen Covey says that what happened between his wife and himself over the course of the year in Hawaii worked best because they were communicating with each other from the inside out rather than using external people management techniques which don’t last very long in a marriage, or, any other kind of long term relationship. And this applies to intergenerational living how? Continue reading “Intergenerational Living: The Final Chapter: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Basically what Mr. Covey tells us here is that we have the choice to allow the world to change us from the outside in, or, we can allow our belief in a higher power to assist us in changing from the inside out. He also explains that between stimulus and response there really is a gap. In this gap we are free to choose how we want to react to the stimulus. We are free to act and do not have to just let automatic responses take over unless we choose to. Continue reading “Inside Out Again: The Final Chapter: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
The process of renewal will naturally cause us to move along the path of self-improvement in an upward spiral. This is, of course, so long as we do not ignore our conscience. In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey writes that our conscience needs to be constantly educated. Continue reading “The Upward Spiral: Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Mr. Covey goes on here to say that if you improve upon/renew any of the four dimensions that make up your being that dimension will have a positive effect on the others as well. So by focusing on the renewal of all four dimensions is going to create a sum result that is greater than all of its parts! Continue reading “Synergy In Renewal: Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
In all four dimensions of our lives there must be equal renewal. Focusing on just the Social/Emotional and forgetting about the physical, spiritual and mental, for instance, is going to lead to problems. The only way we can experience synergy in our lives and enjoy a true state of interdependence with others is by paying balanced attention to the renewal of the four basic dimensions, just mentioned, which makes up who we are. Continue reading “Balance In Renewal: Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Covey tells us that most people are highly influenced by the social mirror. He tells us that we can help to positively influence them by mirroring a true reflection of who they are without the distortion that they would otherwise get from other people. We can help to affirm their proactive nature and validate them in all their other positive qualities. Continue reading “Scripting Others: Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Stephen Covey has written under this heading that renewing the social/emotional aspect of ourselves is fairly easy to do. This is because, in a sense, we don’t have to push ourselves to really set time aside for it. All we have to do is to practice habits four, five and six as we go through our day, interacting with people. Of course; if folks aren’t really strongly grounded in habits one two and three, Mr. Covey tells us that using four five and six will more than likely be a bit of a challenge. However, he does suggest that with commitment it can work. Continue reading “The Social, Emotional Dimension: Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Mr. Covey tells us that TV watching is a very powerful social influence and that it can affect us in very subtle ways if we aren’t careful how we use it. He tells us that the TV in the average home is on about forty-five hours a week, which is far too much time because it takes away from more mentally challenging self-improvement exercises; letter writing, analytical thinking and reading, just to name a few. Continue reading “The Mental Dimension: Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Renewal of the spiritual dimension gives us a solid center from which to work from. Stephen points out here that if what we do is not working for us than perhaps the reason behind it is that it’s only because we are doing it for ourselves. He suggests that focusing on service to others is more than likely going to bring us more of what we want in life in the area of successes; bringing a much better quality of life. Continue reading “The Spiritual Dimension: Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
If the body feels good; that tends to help us feel good emotionally too. Mr. Covey explains here that taking care of our body through exercise is a Quadrant Two activity that many people ignore until it becomes a Quadrant One activity/urgent situation. Stephen tells us that whether we think it’s important or not we should set up an exercise program that is based on our own particular preference as far as how we’d like our body to be. However, he also tells us that it is important to consult with our doctor first, especially if we’ve been rather inactive.
Stephen tells us that our greatest asset we will ever have is ourselves. He tells us that if we don’t take the time to renew/work on ourselves than we’re going to run into problems. Continue reading “Four Dimensions Of Renewal: Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Mr. Covey tells us here that taking time for renewal is important and makes all of the other habits possible. If we don’t take time to refresh ourselves everything else becomes that much harder to do and may even take longer.
Under this heading in The 7 Habits of highly effective people; it is written that synergy pushes back negativity in interdependent situations. The force field analysis described here says that a state of being at any level has a balance of both driving and restraining forces. It is these forces that really do need to be taken into consideration, especially if folks are serious about inspiring real change. Continue reading “Force Field Analysis: Habit 6: Synergize: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Can you imagine talking to people that agree with you all of the time? What? You would? Wouldn’t that make life rather routine and boring? There certainly would be little hope of expanding our horizons, “Don’t you think?” Continue reading “Valuing The Differences: Habit 6: Synergize: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Based on what one reads in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People it’s fairly safe to conclude that what Stephen Covey is trying to tell us here is, “Negative synergy isn’t synergy at all.” People playing politics, not being willing to seek to understand others before rolling along with their own personal scripts in life, and using social techniques to manipulate others doesn’t create anything close to synergy. What it does create is a high stress environment where there is little creativity and a lot of miss-trust; all because of pore communication between everyone involved.
So, what does it take to be able to enjoy a positive level of synergistic communication? Mr. Covey explains in his book; having a good balance in the emotional bank account of each party involved in a discussion about a problem is a good first step. Communicating with a win win mentality plus empathy, seeking to understand where others are coming from in the discussion, puts everyone on the same side of the problem rather than on opposite sides of a very high fence. Continue reading “Synergy And Communication: Habit 6: Synergize: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Even in business synergy works! One does not have to be disrespectful of other people to be open and honest. In fact, when the other people are mature enough to accept the different viewpoints individuals have, the ideas flow more freely and can even build upon one another to the benefit of the company as a whole. Having a group of people involved in this process who are empathetic listeners certainly does help because the environment is none threatening. Furthermore; it doesn’t require anyone involved in attempting to tap the synergistic process to be on the defensive about their views in a group setting.
Mr. Covey explains in his book, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” that synergy means the sum is greater than all of its parts. Another way of thinking of synergy, which might help clarify things, is to consider how nature works. The basic components for life are in place at its foundation. But, as time progresses, (sometimes quickly and other times not so quickly) it evolves to be greater/larger than what the original components could have produced in theory/on paper. Continue reading “Principles Of Creative Cooperation: Habit 6: Synergize: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
Mr. Covey has a few suggestions as to what we can do with habit five. One is to focus on a relationship where we sense that our emotional bank account with that person is overdrawn. He suggests writing out the details of our situation with them from their prospective and to reflect upon whether or not we really had reached an understanding of them; how they see things. Continue reading “Habit Five Application Suggestions: Habit 5: Seek First To Understand Then To Be Understood: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
In order to seek true understanding of another individual; Stephen writes, under this heading, that we need to learn how to listen in such a way as to see things through the eyes of that individual. If we are willing to take the time to do this there will be way less confusion of what it is they are saying. He says in his book that this is because we will have a clearer understanding as to how they perceive things related to what they are talking to us about. If we make it our habit to seek understanding before giving one solitary thought to making ourselves understood; we are in an excellent position to fully enjoy all of the wondrous benefits of synergistic relationships!
Mr. Covey tells us that the four autobiographical responses (listening to people through the lens of our own experience) that most people use have their place in the world. But they alone do not cut it when it comes to effective communication. Continue reading “Four Autobiographical Responses: Habit 5: Seek First To Understand Then To Be Understood: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”
If you attempt to come up with a solution for a person’s dilemma before you fully understand it do you honestly think they are ever going to fully trust you? Would you trust your mechanic to bill you for parts for your car that he only thinks are broken based purely on what you are telling him is wrong? Maybe Unless you know for a fact that the person is an automotive psychic You would expect him “or her” to take a look at your car and do some work on it “first” before requesting payment, “Right?” The point here is; if you are the one playing mechanic when someone brings a problem to you; the only really good way to insure that they will trust you and what you prescribe as a solution for them to work with is through your practice of empathetic listening.
Empathetic listening doesn’t mean that you listen with the intent to reply. It doesn’t mean using reflective listening techniques, or attentive listening, as if you really wanted to hang on someone’s every word. Continue reading “Empathetic Listening: Habit 5: Seek First To Understand Then To Be Understood: Brian Schnabel’s Stephen Covey 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Summary.”