Stephen Covey says that what happened between his wife and himself over the course of the year in Hawaii worked best because they were communicating with each other from the inside out rather than using external people management techniques which don’t last very long in a marriage, or, any other kind of long term relationship. And this applies to intergenerational living how?
In a family that is operating from a sound base as described in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People; Stephen Covey explains that parents and even grandparents can pass down scripts/paradigms to their children and grandchildren, making it easier for them to move ahead in the future. Stephen also points out here that even if we weren’t fortunate enough to come from such families, by learning the 7 Habits we will find that not everything inside us needs to change. He says that we will find some behaviors that have been handed down to us that are quite good to have. He suggests that, until we begin the process of self-awareness, we might not have even been aware that they were there.
However, like with many things, once one finds something good they’ve either been taking for granted without knowing it, or have only just discovered it for the first time, it becomes more valuable and appreciated. Are you aware of and appreciative of all the good in you? Can you appreciate the generations before you that taught it to you in the first place? If you can than you get the idea behind what Mr. Covey has written in this part of his book!